Self-Reflection

Control
Letting go!
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🌧️ Trying to Control Everything?
It’s like yelling at the sky to stop raining. See how that will go!
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☔ You Can’t Stop the Rain
But you can grab an umbrella, take a breath, and handle what’s in your hands.
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⚖️ Letting Go Isn’t Giving Up
It’s asking: “Is this really worth the fight?”
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🧘♂️ Most of the Time? It’s Not.
Less micromanaging = Less stress.
Fewer arguments.
More actual connection.
Slide 5
🤝 Relationships Work Better as a Team
Stop steering the ship solo. Start rowing together.
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🌦️ When the Storm Rolls In
Don’t try to control the rain. Bring the umbrella — and keep moving forward.
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The perfectionist trap
Being a contol freak means you have zero control in your life
Control: Reacting vs. Responding
Reacting:
Reacting is like when you yell or blame someone without thinking. It’s a quick, unplanned action.
You might say hurtful things.
Focus on problems instead of fixing them.
Blame others and feel like things are out of your hands.
Act out of habit, not careful thought.
Responding:
Responding means taking a moment to think before you act.
Focus on what you can control, like your feelings and actions.
Look for solutions instead of staying upset.
Be curious and thoughtful, making smarter choices.
Take responsibility for how you act.
Learning to respond instead of react helps you handle tough situations calmly and keeps relationships strong!
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Handouts: Home Improvement: Men in Relationship Jan 2024
Contol
Reacting vs responding
Reacting:
Knee jerk response ; not thinking things through
Use reactive language
Blaming and accusing attitude
Feel and act like a victim
Focus on what is not in your control (other people, circumstances)
Generate negative energy
Focus on the problem only
Avoid being accountable
Reactive not proactive
Behave out of habit
Responding
Think things through
Focus on what is in your control (your thoughts. Feelings, behaviors)
Think and act responsively
Act and behave in a self - responsible way
Focus on solutions, options and choices
Pay attention and are curious and proactive
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Updated: November 2023
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